Let’s face it…the world is pretty chaotic right now. I have been completely overwhelmed by all of the information I am constantly being exposed to. I find myself getting overwhelmed and overstimulated so easily, and I imagine that’s true for a lot of those who are neurodivergent. All of the external stimulation overloads my brain, often causing me to overthink. As an AuDHD woman, I have struggled with overthinking a LOT!
I constantly overanalyze every decision I make. And I replay conversations in my head nonstop. I even script conversations in my head that may never happen. I worry about the future (which is honestly pretty exhausting). Now I know I’m not the only one who experiences this. In fact, I suspect there are a lot of us doing this. The good news is that there is a way to stop the overthinking. In my post, I’ll explore why it’s important to stop. And I’ll give you some simple things you can do that may help!
Overthinking is more than just a minor bad habit; it can have significant consequences for our mental and emotional health. Ruminating too much really zaps your energy and can lead to chronic stress and anxiety. It certainly can make you start to doubt yourself. The more we dwell on our thoughts, the more distorted they become, leading to a negative spiral that can paralyze us from taking action. Overthinking can also hurt our relationships. It can make us too critical and can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts.
How you can stop overthinking
Become aware of your thoughts
The first step towards overcoming overthinking is to become aware of what you’re thinking. If you pay attention, you’ll notice how much your brain runs on autopilot. You aren’t even aware of the thoughts you’re having. So take some time to notice when your mind starts racing and spiraling into negative thinking. Awareness is important because you can’t change the things you’re unaware of. But continuing to overthink isn’t productive…and can be harmful to your physical and mental health.
Challenge your thoughts
How often do you question your thoughts? If you’re like most people, you don’t. Ask yourself if there is any evidence that supports your worries. When you do this, you may realize that your worries are not the big deal you thought they were. Practice replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. When you challenge your thoughts, your mind won’t be triggered as much.
Set some boundaries
Setting boundaries is a big key to stopping your overthinking. Pick specific times in your day to deal with worries or make decisions, instead of letting them follow you around all day. The more you practice trusting yourself and your gut, the easier it gets to let go and just… relax a little.
Find some good distractions
Give your brain something better to focus on. For example, spend time focusing on a favorite hobby or spending time with people you love. Anything you do that brings you joy can pull you out of your head and out of overthinking.
It’s okay to get support when you need it
If you’re struggling, please don’t be afraid to reach out to someone for help. You really don’t have to do it on your own. Talk to a friend, family member, or a therapist you trust. Sometimes all it takes is hearing someone else’s viewpoint to help you see things more clearly.
Overthinking is just a bad habit. And once you start noticing how overthinking has been impacting your life, you can start making the changes you need to make. Find a tool that works for you and start using it. And you’ll feel better. You deserve that!
