Learning To Just Be Yourself

It’s easy to say “just be yourself” to someone. But many don’t realize that they are disconnected from who they are. Society likes people who conform, and so from an early age, we often are told that if we are different in any way it is “bad”. This is particularly true if you are an empath and have psychic abilities, which aren’t as easily acceptable in society. Parents, teachers, peers, siblings, friends, spouses, colleagues…all give feedback on who we are every day. And they often hold their own opinions about what they think you should do, how they feel you should act, and who they feel you should be. Because of this, there is often pressure to conform to what others want of us so that we can gain their approval. But this comes at a high cost. We can wind up giving up parts of who we truly are, just to make others happy.

Stress

The other cost is the stress and tension that is created by not aligning with who you truly are. For many people, this type of chronic stress can go on for years, or even decades. And it can contribute to a long list of health issues such as digestive problems, depression, anxiety, headaches, weight problems, insomnia, and more. I certainly have been guilty of this in the past. But as I moved away from needing the approval of others, and back to being the fullness of who I am, I began to understand that in trying to make others happy, I was denying parts of myself that not only do I need…but the world needs as well. Many people are guilty of this as well. If you believe you’ve done this as well, it’s never too late to reconnect with who you are. The world needs you…the fullness of you. And that means showing them the flawed, unique, quirky, brilliance of who you are. Don’t hide that away from the world any longer!

How to start reconnecting with your authentic self

Start paying attention to how you are feeling

I’m amazed by how often I used to ignore how I was feeling about things in my life. It is so easy to get into the pattern of disregarding how you feel or even stuffing down emotions that aren’t so comfortable. Just spending a few moments sitting and recognizing how you are feeling without judgment is a very valuable way to begin reconnecting with yourself!

Check out what you are thinking

What kinds of thoughts are you thinking about yourself? If you are constantly putting yourself down and being critical of different aspects of yourself, then it may be time to make some changes. How does it feel when you are negative towards yourself? I would guess it doesn’t make you feel great. But what if you switched to thoughts that empowered and uplifted you? That would be SO much better!

Make “you” time a priority!

In this busy modern world, it has become so common for most women to forego self-care regularly. For some reason, we’ve come to believe that taking care of our basic needs is selfish. That type of thinking needs to be changed…and fast! Without taking time out to nurture your body, mind, and spirit, your energetic well WILL run dry. When that happens, you will get sick, maybe even chronically. You will have nothing left to give to those who need you. When you regularly take time to take care of yourself, you will discover that you have so much more energy to complete the things you need to complete and take care of the people you need to take care of!

Listen to your body

Our bodies speak to us all the time! But we’ve become so overloaded by external stimulation that we’ve begun to tune out the messages we are being sent. How long has it been since you truly felt hunger or thirst? What about aches and pains that you ignore? Take some moments throughout your day to check in with your body and give attention to how it’s feeling. Do a quick body scan and pay attention to each part of your body. Check for little aches and pains and listen to how your body is speaking to you. These are just a few ways you can begin to reconnect with who you really are! As you learn to be yourself, you will begin to discover things about yourself that you didn’t know. It’s a fascinating but wonderful process, so enjoy learning more about yourself and your body.